Why couldn’t I have been born with a faulty uterus and an inability to have kids. This would, literally, not bother me at all. No worries about pregnancy and no periods.
Or better yet. Why couldn’t I just be born a dude? No periods and the ability to pee standing up! And playing with yourself seems like it’d be a lot more fun
Just a thought on what bleep0bleep was saying.
Once a friend who is a gay male told me he was frustrated with slash fiction because young gay men were reading it and getting the wrong ideas about what gay sex was like. So do we take that on as an issue as females writing slash? Do we take responsibility for that? Should we start warning people that this fanfic is written by a woman who has an interest in homosexual sex but acknowledges she can’t know completely how it works or feels? I mean I have no idea what the right answer is but I’m curious as to what others think about this issue.
I had a similar experience talking to someone recently. Is it the responsibility of fanfic writers to write accurate and realistic sex scenes? Are unrealistic scenes in fanfic harming efforts of the queer community?
I just discussed this with a friend earlier. There’s so many arguments and sides you can take on this debate.
1) Because women are the majority of writers and readers we should not have to compromise our writing for the sake of a few gay male readers
2) Fic writers should take responsibility for the sex scenes they write and either a. write it as accurately as possible b. warn readers that it’s fictional and that (in the case of women writers) they have no real experience with this type of sex
3) Claim slash fiction as a female practice and female space and say that because of this that female writers should have the freedom to write scenes however they wish to do so. Similar to #1 but with a little more backbone to it.
That’s just the few that I can remember. And I still don’t know the right answer, if there is one.
Hey there, interesting discussion [on to my previous response to this ask here]. First of all, “unrealistic scenes in fanfic” —are kind of the backbone to fic in general. It’s a fantasy space, with everything from werewolf dicks and knotting and a/b/o dynamics and tentacles and matebonds, all of which are fun to read but as a reader, one knows getting into a work that these aren’t realistic practices.
On that note, on writing sex scenes that don’t contain any of the aforementioned, I think doing as much research as you can makes you a better writer and better experiences for the readers, regardless of gender or orientation.
Two Cents: In some ways, this speaks the existing problems and criticism of gay porn in video form. There have been major criticisms for leaving out the use of condoms, or showing the act or putting them on, as well as a lack of showing the use of lubricant. Those things were cut out, inevitably, for sake of only showing the “sexy parts” of the scene, but it’s possible that those watching get the idea that they aren’t needed or regularly used. These criticisms have led to the art being adjusted to mimic life…
…I see no reason fan fiction shouldn’t have similar standards, in certain ways. Now, as for girls not knowing how buttsex works, I think, in part, to be blunt, we’re forgetting that women are capable of having penises in their butts, as well. The part cis-women aren’t able to properly imagine, at least from a first-person POV, is having sex with another person while possessing a natural born-with penis. This does not mean that girls writing fan fiction automatically don’t know how a penis works (sometimes better than some underinformed boys out there, just saying).
Honestly, I think there’s a societal issue involved not unique to fan fiction. Due to stigmas, anal sex (both F/M and M/M) is less talked about than I dare say all other of the most common forms of sexual encounters. Because it’s taboo, the proper ways to do it are not even talked about, let alone taught, in a safe manner. I find that a responsibility on sex education rather than one that should be placed on individual fan fiction writers.
Even so, if you’re publishing a work that—if only due to lacking information or a lack of a few narrations—manages to promote an unsafe activity (in this case, unprotected anal sex, anal sex without lubrication, etc), then I think you have a responsibility to either disclaim, or to educate yourself. Like has already been said, here, it makes you a better writer, and your writing more realistic, and possibly more enjoyable, if you’re more informed, anyway.
I agree with a lot of what has been stated but I would like to argue that it’s the reader’s responsibility when reading fan fiction (or fiction of any kind) to realize that it is in fact fiction. No matter how accurately an author can try to portray something, there’s always the chance that they’re wrong. In fact, even a “perfect” portrayal of an act that one person has experienced will differ from what others have, thereby creating a “faulty” portrayal.
So it’s the reader’s duty to realize that no matter how real it might feel or seem, what they’re reading is still fiction.